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Body Language. Flirting. Confidence. The Approach. These are just some of the areas covered in The Art of Approaching: How to Meet Amazing Women Without Fear of Rejection, by Joseph Matthews, aka Thundercat.

For example, one of the things women instinctively love in men is exclusivity: the feeling that you are a quality man who is in short supply. How do you get women to think that?

Joseph offers detailed answers: acting mysterious, offering women “secrets”, pretending to not be interested, acting unpredictably, and–really fascinating–”short-circuiting the all-annoying testing mechanism.”

Curious how that works? This book gives you the goods you need to get the women you want.

WHAT I LIKE ABOUT “THE ART OF APPROACHING”

While not as fascinating as books like Double Your Dating or The Tao of Dating, The Art of Approaching is a good value if you’re looking for a bare-bones, honest, and direct approach to attracting women. It’s nearly 200 pages of information ranging from “The Art of Body Language” and “The Art of Confidence,” to “The Art of Flirting”, “The Art of Storytelling,” and even “The Art of Being Social.” In that sense, the information is well-organized and sequential, making it easy to advance up the attraction ladder.

Basically, Matthews delves into topics beyond just how to flirt and how to impress; he goes into the social dynamics and necessary conversation skills you HAVE to have if you are going to successfully attract women in a sexual way. For example, he spends a whole chapter detailing how to tell compelling stories, and goes into tips for an active social life, as well as how to build up your network to make getting a date easy.

This is a big strength, because really, if you don’t know how to interact with people and make them interested in you, how are you going to make WOMEN interested in you? As Joseph notes, “The single biggest, most limiting belief guys have that keeps them from succeeding is the belief that LOOKS MATTER.”

This is, unfortunately, something many so-called “gurus” neglect to tell guys who aren’t “naturals” like them.

Another thing I really like about “The Art of Approaching” is how sympathetic Joseph is to those who aren’t normally sociable. He empathizes with those who are shy, fearful, and anxious, having been those things (and overweight!) himself. So he proves that such things that prevent you from feeling confident CAN be overcome–he tells you, step-by-step, how to eliminate your fears, insecurities, and anxieties. Which, to me, is VERY useful information every good attraction guide should review.

Additionally, Matthews’ writing style is clear, funny, and easily understood. Getting through this book will be easy, and you’ll gain some good understanding of key topics. It’s a good book to begin with as you learn how to make yourself more attractive to beautiful women.

You also learn something many seduction e-books tend to forget: why good communication and conversation skills are so crucial in meeting and seducing women. Matthews gives various scenarios that you will encounter with women, and how to get not only get around them, but also how to turn them to your advantage. I particularly like his tips on teasing and busting balls. It’s good stuff that you can actually apply in bar-room and party scenarios.

WHAT I DON’T LIKE ABOUT “THE ART OF APPROACHING”

If anything, the book is a bit too simple. Those searching for understanding beyond the basics, who want to gain step-by-step instructions on what to say and do, may be disappointed. The book is not too well-presented; for example, there is just too much text, instead of headings and sidebars to make things easier, such as in The Tao of Dating. It would help if the book didn’t read like a novel and instead more like a reference manual.

OVERALL RECOMMENDATION

All in all, however, for the amount of information you get, “The Art of Approaching” is not a bad value. Joseph Matthews, aka “Thundercat,” remains one of the top students of The Game; he’s been to the workshops, started the seduction community from the ground up, and given thousands and thousands of men advice that has gotten them babes they never thought possible.

Especially if you are looking for the basics that you need and not a lot of pseudo-scientific, filler information that you really don’t need, this is the book for you. It’s what you need to make yourself attractive, and little else. And when you think about it, who needs much more?

So if you’re keen to learn more, find out how to attract women now with The Art of Approaching.

FINAL RATING: You won’t regret buying it, but if you’re not willing to give up the bucks, at least try out his fantastic (and very popular) newsletter series.

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Number one:
Listen to what other people are saying. Really pay attention. Don't just compile your response in your head so you'll have something to say once that person stops talking. When a person feels like they are being HEARD they are probabaly going to feel more comfortable in opening up and letting their feelings be known. Be a good listener. Repeat back some of the things that you're hearing. "…so you're saying that it really bothers you when I go out with my friends every weekend…" (for example)
No one can read another persons mind so don't assume that they'll automatically know what you're thinking.
Also, don't make a person feel like they have to defend themselves when you comment about them. Don't accuse excessively like, "….YOU always go out with your friends and leave me behind…" but rather word it like this : " I feel left behind and a little unloved when you go out with your friends so often…"
See what I mean?
Best of luck to you! Don't give up.

I read some english skill book. but i forget 1or 2 weeks. some easy words meaning suddenly not come to my mind. how also improve my memory.

1. Read news paper and have a dictionary handy so that you can look up the meaning of words.
2. read a lot of books this should help you.
3. challenge yourself with word games, here you will learn a lot of words.
4. BEST is watch a lot of English movies, it is fun learning. listen to the way they pronounce words and the context they use it in.
5. talk to yourself i mean in your mind in english, everything that u say to yourself in your mother tongue, now say it in english, this way, you will look for words to say and then learn very easily.
6. ask your friend(s) whom you trust wont mock you to speak to you in english, this will definitely escalate your learning.

when it comes to your personality, dont ask others in the begining, question yourself what is lacking in you when you figure out what you need, you can ask people to help you strengthen it.

all the best.

just wondering, cause i have no contact with girls at all. well i have no contact with guys either, i'm just a friendless person. But i wanna change that. Umm, if you answer dance lessons, i can't cause i have knee injuries.

go work in a restaurant or some place where girls hang out

Supervision is not a new concept. The execution method and amount of supervision required varies depending on the situation. Supervision is necessary as it not only enhances workers knowledge and skills of their job, but also provides psychological support so that they can perform their responsibilities with self-assurance. Supervision also ensures maintenance and implementation of high quality work.

Coaching supervision:

Like other workers coaches also need supervision in order to enhance their skills. However, the supervision given to coaches is quite different from the management supervision in companies. In this competitive world, hiring coaches is becoming increasingly popular; therefore, it is necessary for coaches, in turn, to deliver their best. Hence, they undergo supervision to hone their skills because it allows them to reflect and review their job performance.

Most associations involved in the field of coaching recognize the benefits of coaching supervision. Organizations like European Mentoring and Coaching Council (EMCC) are involved in the promotion of good quality coaching as well as mentoring. They bring together people who buy coaching, and those who give out coaching services, to promote quality. People who buy these coaching or mentoring services gain confidence because they know that their coach is being professionally supervised. This means there will be control over the quality of the services, and the subsequent results. Corporations consider it mandatory for the coaches they hire to come under the supervision of a senior and experienced practitioner.

Mentoring:

Although coaching supervisors and mentors use communication and interpersonal skills, they are different from each other. Even effective mentors need good coaching skills. Mentors are an internal part of any organization. They work without any agenda and people can share professional as well as personal details with their mentor.

Mentors also impart knowledge and skills required to become a professional, along with guidance and emotional support; something that coaches do not provide.

Coaching supervision vs. mentoring:

When supervision is weighed against mentoring, coach mentoring carries more weight. Supervision alone cannot deliver the desired results. Supervision is limited to the process of overseeing the coaches. Whereas, to improve the quality of coaching, proper mentoring is also necessary, because it ensures development on the professional level and provides external support.

Mentors are meant to conversant with their client field to enable them to understand and perform effectively. For a coach to be able to bring about good results, it is important for them to be provided adequate training and education. It is also essential for them to share both professional and personal details to acquire the best advice. The approach ought to be more about self-discovery, rather than mere performance. Hence, enhancement of performance along with personal growth should be the priority. Mentoring plays an important role in ensuring this as the emphasis is based on guiding a person in the right direction instead of providing a list of skills that need to be achieved. Performance skills can be effective only when a person is guided towards it. Mentoring can help you lead your life in a balanced manner.